Hello All!
The new decade is upon us and I thought I’d share a little wisdom, I’ve gained over the past 10 years. And hopefully help anyone out there who needs it. 🙂
Here My 10 Lessons in 10 Years [2009 through 2019]. And be warned there are explicit words used. Of course, no racial slurs or things like that. But I curse, #sorrynotsorry.
- Expect nothing and appreciate everything. I feel like this one is pretty self-explanatory, but honestly I’ve learned over the years that not expecting (neither good nor bad) can save myself a lot of heartache and grant me lots of pleasant surprises, at times. So, that’s my top lesson over the past 10 years.
- Expect nothing and appreciate everything; and everything in-between. Again, this one is self-explanatory. It’s more so an extension of the first lesson. But it’s a reminder to myself, that there is good and bad in everything; and that’s okay.
- Bad things fall apart, so better things can fall together. Yes, this quote is paraphrased from the iconic Marilyn Monroe (not sorry…) but it’s more fitting for this era in my belief. I think it’s a perfect way to handle the worst times in life, just remind yourself that you’re going through all the bad things in order to experience the better things. Most likely even better things, than you originally expected! 🙂
- I am much stronger than I give myself credit for.
- Don’t assume you know someone else’s circumstances. Yes, this is true, especially with all the social media nonsense that seems to be running this world, right now. But I can say from personal experiences, unless you’ve experienced someone else’s circumstances or experienced someone else’s circumstances with them, you don’t really know what’s going on. So, to keep this one shorter – Don’t assume. Especially if they seem ultra happy and “perfect”.
- Silence is sometimes platinum and sometimes painful. Remember this applies to solitude as well!
- Judge less, spread love more! Be compassionate as much as you can, which is not to say you won’t have your moments but be compassionate with yourself and others. It’s really a relief knowing that everyone is ultimately doing the best they can, even if we don’t agree with it.
- I don’t need outside approval from anything and/or anyone, in order to have a great life. My reputation may not be what I want it to be, my self-awareness and self-respect is much greater than some random person on the internet’s (more often than not) distorted opinions of me.
- Everyone’s offended by everything, so you might as well live your life and express your creativity to the fullest! Yea, I know that’s really offensive but it’s true.
- Despite what social media makes you think, this Universe does NOT revolve around you, it does NOT revolve me and it certainly doesn’t revolve around our shared miseries. There are bigger problems in the world, than our individual situations. So, stop forcing your problems on others and start focusing on being the change you want to see.
- Bonus Lesson!: Do NOT, please do NOT take anything for granted. No matter how sucky it may seem, everything you think is crappy and that you think you can live without could be taken away from you, in the blink of eye. So, savor every moment. All of it, good, bad and ugly! Mainly because everything you know, love as well as everything you think you know is true about your life and yourself can collapse, right before your eyes. Don’t take anything for granted, because things can change rapidly. And remember, not everyone is as blessed you are, so be appreciative of that fact.
- Bonus Lesson #2!: Be comfortable with sucking. If you have great goals you want to achieve, you need to be comfortable with sucking for a long, long, long time. Yes, it sucks but guess what? That’s the only way you’ll become disciplined. And disciplined is actually the best friend to creativity. So, if you’re willing to embrace and be comfortable with your sucky progress – You’re already halfway there! It’s okay that you’re not where you want to be, give it passion, patience, persistence and peacefulness (with the fact that you’re not yet where you wish to be); you will eventually get there. Patience is a sucky virtue, bitches!
- Finale Lesson!: All those perceived failures are just successes being born in a greater way. So, yes, it sucks, you failed 70 times but maybe that 77th time, you just might hit the right note! Don’t give up, but do surrender to the fact that you’re going to fail. Real success is NOT an overnight manifestation, you need to work your backside off if you truly want success. But all those failures are just stepping stones to your greatest success!
Epilogue: In conclusion, I’m sending everyone who reads this some warm thoughts and speaking life into your situations, whatever they may be. Let’s make 2020 the most epic year ever, by working (and sucking, and being patient, and failing; and being compassionate, and giving ourselves more credit. And of course, being less judgmental…) our smartest, hardest and healthiest ways to finally achieve what we want. Here’s to the new decade… Are you ready for it?